Dear Love (parents, read this):

Dear Love (my daughter):

So, in order to survive my plane ride home, (my daughter is at a rowing camp in Connecticut), I did what any new-age mom does for mind-candy, I got on the internet.  And, as I was searching for something, up came a list of popular searches.  One of them was “How to keep him interested.”  Really?  It’s 2013 – we need articles like that?  We have Oprah now!  I pulled up the list and started to check it out.

After I got over my shock, I got a bit upset.  Love, it is not, nor will it ever be your job to “keep him interested.”  All you need to do is be your loving self.  Know your own soul.  That place that isn’t affected by rejection, loss and a fragile ego.  Boys, this holds true for you too.

Remember, you are worthy of interest.  If you can also remember that everyone else is worthy of interest, your life struggles will be greatly lessened.   

The person of your dreams should not need to be kept interested.  He will know you are interesting – Be Yourself!  It doesn’t matter if he has a few difficult habits (we all do!).  As long as his eyes are on you and the focus is on your soul – then nothing else matters.

It really doesn’t matter the amount of money he makes. What matters is that he follows his heart and does good things in the world and all that he does leads back to you.

It doesn’t matter what kind of car he drives, the clothes he wears or the schools he attended.  What matters is he wants to learn about the world, his life and he understands that you bring color to his world.

Nor do I care about the color of his skin or the way he votes (kind of don’t care about how he votes!).  As long as he wakes up next to you and places you in his heart and mind each day.  As long as he protects your vulnerabilities and tenderness.  I know you will do the same for him.

I guess it’s never to early to send this message to our future young adults: stay true to yourself, be with those who will love and protect you and don’t worry so much about outward appearances.

So, love — have a great couple of weeks.  Soak it all in and enjoy this exciting new privilege and adventure.  I’ll look forward to catching up with you each day!

I love you.  Mom

P.S.  I guess this blog is for all of us.  The right people in our lives, whether partners or friends, will remain interested as long as we are true to ourselves.

Have a great day!