This is a common theme with teens and I was fully prepared when I heard it from my kids. After all, I said it about 10,000 times to my mother. Last night I heard it at least once and likely a few times this week. But, it’s normal to hear that from kids and there is a balancing act between letting them make choices and choosing for them. But this blog is about me … about my wanting to say, out loud to anyone who will listen, “It’s my life and you can’t make me!”
I know that each day I have the ability to make the choice to take control over my life. To be proactive on what I need and not take care of everyone else first. But the intellect does not always match the heart.
I also know that to take control of my life or exercise personal leadership I need to take responsibility for myself. It means I have to live my values, vision and then, When I do, I’m more productive, able to solve problems more easily and have less stress in my life.
I’ve let this part of my life slide at times. Rather than face my fears and move on and take control, I don’t. I let other people or things make decisions for me. That’s a form of taking control but not a healthy one. I’m sure you can relate.
We must all remember, that as silly as it sounds, we are the principal architect and creator of our lives. Where we’re at and who we’re with are based on choices and decisions we’ve made thus far.
I found an interesting article on personal leadership and it related to seeing yourself as the CEO of your life. It essentially asked, are you making healthy strategic planning decisions? Are you living your life in the most inspired but efficient way? Are you making decisions for yourself rather than allowing the decisions to happen to you?
(Deep Breath). I’m not sure about this in my own life at times. I do know, that when my kids say, “It’s my life ….” they are trying to tell me that they want some control. That they don’t want things to “happen” to them. And truthfully, neither do I. Food for thought.
I hope you have a nice start to your weekend!