I am on day 50 and I decided that it is time to write on my favorite subject – love. Those close to me know how strongly I feel about this topic. My son (many years ago) – (sad, that his siblings had given me a gift and he hadn’t) dragged me to a local jewelery store and found, in a bowl of $2 rings, one that simply says – LOVE. I have worn it every day since. It is my most important personal item.
The topic of love will likely take up hundreds of my posts this year. Some will be on relationship love. Some on the love of our kids. Maybe some on new love. And some on the love I feel for everything and everyone else. I don’t take love lightly or for granted … I’m filled with it.
We know that the best love relationships are partnerships. We also know that if you get to be right most of the time and make your partner take all of the blame, you will end up alone. So how do we find the middle ground? Have our needs met and meet our partners needs? How do we release our childhood issues and move into healthy adult relationships? How do we keep our love relationships together amidst the craziness of life? I have a million questions and only a few answers.
Lately I have seen and experienced long-term relationships dissolve for a variety of reasons: we’re too alike, we’re too different, we’re too busy, etc. Sometimes (I think most times) they just end because neither party respected nor gently took care of the relationship – the partnership.
Honestly, (and maybe I can say this because I’m so far removed at this point) I think that relationships are made or destroyed by such things (or lack thereof) as respect, tenderness, displays of affection, communication and appreciation. We need to pay attention to our actions and remember that our love relationships should take more energy than those with our friends and our children. It is more difficult, requires more restraint, and needs to be fed to stay strong, healthy and loving. When we get caught up in life (and our own anger, frustration, fears, ego, etc.), we forget about making our partner feel good, safe and loved.
I read a quote once (and can only remember a bit of it … 50-year-old brain syndrome) —- While the universe owes us nothing, we owe the universe everything. Think of your love relationships the same way.
Have a fantastic start to your week and please do or say something wonderful to a person you love!
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