Yesterday I did something unusual. I went for a “healing.” I’ve never done this before, but, as you know, I’ve decided to try some new things this year, so it fit with that goal (to my kids: “No. I’m not going to skydive.”). I really wasn’t sure what to expect, what to wear or what to bring. So, I did nothing but put on my work clothes and head to the session.
Let me cut to the chase: I have no idea what happened. I laid quietly on a table with a blanket and tried not to fall asleep (I think I did!), I really focused on the music she was playing, ignored (tried to ignore) the buzzing I could hear coming from my phone and relaxed.
Afterward the session, the woman and I spoke very little but she did ask if I’d experienced anything. I relayed my focus as noted above and did say one thing: I remember my son coming to me and I could just feel his happiness. That part was amazing.
I’m not sure what to do with yesterday’s experience and I’ll likely just go about my day today, but I do have one big take away:
Self-Care
If I’ve learned anything this year, it’s that self-care is critical. To really feel balanced in our fast-paced world, we have to pay attention to our inner and outer needs. Taking care of yourself will allow you to be “there” as a parent, partner and friend. In fact, I believe that we will respond to our kids and partners in a more positive way and with more emotional intimacy when our own internal and external needs are satisfied. Yesterday’s experience was one of self-care.
We (read “me”) have a tendency to care for others before ourselves. This is where we can easily neglect ourselves and then turn to resentment. Yet, when we connect to our needs, we can find balance and happiness – allowing us to give our full heart and mind to other situations. Then there is no resentment and no regrets.
We all have different ways of self-care. This blog has been one for me this year. And, it’s forced me to accept that life has lots of hills and valleys. Exercise is another. I’ve also learned not to focus on the things I can’t change and to focus on listening to my inner voice when it tells me to slow down, set boundaries and take care of your body.
So, that’s all. I just hope that today (and every day) you take care of you. Have fun! Our stay is short so enjoy every moment!
I hope your day is filled with joy and love! XO
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