It’s kind of hard to feel super happy these days. We have rain, rain, rain, no electricity, gray skies, etc., etc. But, much as I’d like to wallow in my frustration, I know that it’s really my attitude about the whole thing, that matters.
Last night I went to a few gatherings. I saw lots of pictures of kids, grandkids and hear about everyone’s new adventures. People seemed happy. That’s the fun thing about a party.
This is not always the case. We often let outer events influence our moods and then we become slaves to those feelings and then lose our choice, our freedom about being happy.
I’ve talked a lot about choosing happiness but it is easier said than done. Happiness is by definition, a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. It usually occurs when there are no worries, fears or obsessive thoughts. Seriously, that almost never happens for me!!! Worry is my first name! However, in keeping with do as I say, not as I do (smile), there are things that I talk with my kids about how to at least make it easier for us all to choose happiness.
In talking with my kids awhile back, I told them we need to make happiness a habit (this is where they rolled their eyes at me!). I suggested that we need to make it easier to choose happiness (here’s where they tried to walk away!). Fortunately, I was buying dinner so they were forced to stay and listen to my ideas:
1. Think about solutions, not problems. The problem won’t help but the solution will.
2. Look at someone’s negative comments as really wanting to say something better, but they just need help. And, don’t let negative comments become your reality.
3. Pay attention to your thoughts, your tapes. They will drive you in a direction you don’t want to go.
4. Don’t wish you had done X, Y, Z. Look at what you have done already!
5. Do one nice thing for yourself every day.
6. Do one nice thing for someone else each day.
7. Expect happiness.
8. Smile more. This is a no brainer.
9. Associate with happy people. Happiness is contagious. Be the one who people want to associate with!
10. Anyone can be cool and anyone can be sullen. But being awesome and happy is a whole other level. And, while it takes practice, it’s totally worth it!
Today, I’m just going to love the gray day and my sump pump going off every 32 seconds! Stay dry and find some happiness today!
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