Today, as we all know, is Father’s Day. There is something incredibly special about fathers. They have a way of relating to their kids without the (sometimes) hysteria of moms. They can be calming and affirming in a “guy” sort of way. My kids’ father is one of those guys. While we didn’t have what it took to be married, I can honestly say that I got a great father for my kids.
My father and I weren’t particularly close for most of my life. My parents were divorced when I was young and we moved north when I was a teen. When my mom died, my father came to her memorial service. While I didn’t see him there, he told me afterwards how amazing he thought my eulogy was, in front of 600+ people. I was shocked. Not that he had never complemented me but he really never complemented me. From that tragic death, came the silver lining and our relationship began to change.
Last year, I decided to stop one of my volunteer activities and spend more time with my dad. The first time we met for coffee he asked what the “occasion” was – did I need money? Yup, this was going to be an interesting process. Somehow, through our various life issues, we began to both share and open up more. I am so thankful for this time with him – regardless of how long it lasts. It’s been my complete and total pleasure to get to know him.
So, although this is a bit of a Hallmark holiday, it’s a perfect day to celebrate anyone who has played a father-type role in our lives or the lives of our children. Nothing can substitute for the love and support of a parent in a child’s life. In my world, there is no success I care more about than my role as a parent. I know that there are fantastic male figures in my children’s lives. And for that, I am incredibly thankful.
To my colleague: I am sorry about your news. You are an incredible person and father. All will be ok. You, your children, your wife and all who love you will be better and stronger for the experience you are about to embark on. Peace, health and strength.
Have a wonderfully special day!
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