A friend gave me a retro eraser with this saying on it … “Smart Women Make Changes.” There’s a company that manufactures items with this fantastic saying! How cool is that! Also, last night I went to a book signing for a friend of mine. An attorney who made the commitment to begin writing every day and out of that commitment – three years later – came a book (which was just published)!! That’s change. I’ve written about change before but as we come upon the new year, I am examining this issue quite closely in my own life.
Most people don’t strive for changes because the unknown is scary. I know that’s true for me. Even though I may not like where I am at the moment (job, relationship, weight, anything), it is still familiar, comfortable, predictable and requires minimal effort. Why change, right? Writing this blog was a change for me. To write or even admit to and open up about all my flaws (and on a daily basis) was scary and a challenge. I have never done anything like this before in all my 50 years.
I have a love/hate relationship with the familiar, the comfortable, and the predictable. I love it but I know that I can do more to change and grow. I am also afraid of change, afraid of failing, afraid of leaving people, job security, routine, or all of the above. But, I also am experiencing change every day and I know it’s what makes my life exciting!
On New Year’s Day, thousands of people resolve to change something about their lives. They start off strong, but as February approaches, many begin to lose their interest in the change. Those that really do follow through are the ones who have “failed” several times. I think trying with persistence, a common trait of change-makers, will result in success.
I’ve never made new year’s promises. I’m not sure why. My mom thought that was “odd” because “everyone makes them.” Maybe I was even afraid to make a promise to myself! In any case, I didn’t and still don’t. On my birthday this year, I committed to making changes each day. Of course, those close to me would agree that I have failed as many times as I have been successful (or even less). I’ve made some small changes and a few with big heavy doors.
This year – starting today – I am going to make some that I never imagined I would make. I have no idea what they are yet or how it will all turn out. Scary? Yes. Am I likely to cry a few times as I push through? No question (but I’m Italian – remember?). Yet, I am certain, absolutely certain, that I will be amazed (and happy) at how cool the changes are.
I really look forward to each new day and the changes and surprises it brings. I hope you do too!
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