We all face tough decisions when it comes to personal and business relationships. How do we decide whether to stay in or leave a relationship? Take a job or quit one? Hire, fire, or partner with someone? Should we take on a client/job/task doesn’t seem to fit our vision? Should we just say no and walk away? Business and relationships need a clear decision path, yet, we often get stuck. Moreover, no decision is a decision (and I’m very good at that in my personal life).
I have two things running concurrently: I need to make a personal decision and my son is feeling like he is not making enough decisions for himself (a source of significant frustration for him). Today, I will briefly explore the former. Tomorrow, the latter.
I am usually a pretty decisive person. In my business, I make split second decisions all the time without hesitation. With the kids, same thing. This is more personal and I am having a hard time making the decision. I know that decisions must be made rationally rather than in anger. And, the most difficult decisions are the ones that are both emotional and intellectual. When both are in conflict – like the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other! I got one on each shoulder right now!!!
So, I’ve begun to a list – the main pro and con arguments of each decision. I’ve also started to look at what has caused the problem(s) that led me to this point and decide if it can be solved. Sometimes problems can’t be solved, people are different and we have to let go and understand that we can’t change people or situations.
Difficult decisions are life-altering (I would suggest in a positive way no matter what the decision). Yet, we often second-guess ourselves. I have no answers right now, only questions. And, I am keeping an open mind about my own decision and the concerns raised by my son.
I recently heard a quote on decisions which stuck with me: Sometimes you make the right decision and sometimes you make the decision right. Dr. Phil
You know that when I start quoting Dr. Phil, I’m in trouble!
Almost a snow day today!!! Enjoy!
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