I must admit that this is one of the bigger challenges of my life – dealing with the fact that nothing stays the same. Why is it that life can’t stay static for one minute … it is constantly changing, despite all my attempts to the contrary.
This isn’t “breaking” news. We all know that nothing stays the same. We all know that life is constantly changing. However, I have worked very hard over the years to keep things the same … only to under-estimate that fact that nothing does!
There are some things that don’t change (or don’t change fast enough!). Studies have shown (where the heck do I get these studies??) that people who are nice in their 20’s tent to be nicer in their 50’s and people who are unpleasant for whatever reason in their 20’s tend to become even less pleasant in the later years. Why? Apparently, being happy or pleasant is a learned behavior! So, the longer you are pleasant, the more likely you will stay that way. We all know people that we wish would change, but don’t.
Most everything else changes. And, if we are to survive relationships, whether a partner, your kids or your friends, we must become comfortable with the changes they make (or don’t make) about who they are and what they want. This is not about settling (something I allowed myself to do for quite some time) this is about understanding that nothing, not even people, stay the same, and if you love someone, you have to adapt – one way or another.
I was talking with a friend last night about this topic and she reminded me that I am constantly changing too. Not what I was looking for … I thought I was going to stay 50 forever!
Change is absolute, it always happens. Time changes, people change and our world changes with it. So, I am in the preparation mode for the change in front of me. If it’s not going to stay the same (and it’s not) then I might as well embrace the change!
Maybe something will change in my kids today. Maybe they will start unloading the dishwasher, doing the laundry and picking up their room … one can only hope!
Have a great day.
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