“No acts of kindness, no matter how small, are ever wasted.” I agree 100% with this statement. Sometimes life gets us down and it is hard to do the little things for others. Yet, I have been consistently clear in my mind that acts of kindness make this short life special.
There is no question that there is something called “giver’s gain.” We really do “get” something from giving. You get a boost of happiness, it can make a tough day better and is good for your health. Giving a compliment is a great gift of kindness and you get a transparent result. It’s the immediate smile, hug or even a wonderful response back.
In relationships, the little things really count. Think back to your last argument. It was likely over something little (which may have turned into something bigger!). When we are initially together with a new partner, we prioritize and ensure that we are doing those little things for each other. As life gets busier and we get more comfortable in the relationship, these things slip by the wayside. One partner may feel slighted because they continue to make those efforts but the other one isn’t. Or both sort of let it go. Eventually, if the couple isn’t careful, that lack of “little” things will turn into a bigger issue.
I have a friend who thinks that the little things don’t really matter. That if you are in love, that should be enough. I disagree. I think that’s a recipe for an unhappy relationship. Maybe I’m wrong (been many times before!). But I feel strongly that regardless of the relationship … with your partner, your friends and your family (and even the kids, although they don’t really see all you do just yet!) … these things will make a difference for the other person, for you and for the relationship.
Maybe what I am saying is that these little things are a sign of respect for the relationship. The care you give your relationship is a sign of respect. If you are not respecting or caring for the relationship, it will eventually break down.
So, take time today to look at those close to you and make sure you are caring for the relationship. It can be as small as a text message letting them know you are thinking of them or a quick call to set up coffee. Or, even better, a hug with the simple words, “I love you.”
Have a great Sunday!
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