I spent the evening with two guys who are best friends. They’ve known each other since college – some 40 years ago. They don’t live in the same state but they have found a way to stay connected all these years. While I was with them another friend of theirs called. I listened them on a speaker phone. There’s something about the playful, non-serious banter of guy BFFs that is so fun!
My daughter has a BFF. She “lives” at our house. She’s like my second daughter. With her, my daughter can share all her secrets and knows they will stay right there. I can’t tell you how much I enjoy watching the two of them. Even my boys have said that they want to have a best friend like their sister does … I wish that my boys saw each other as best friends, but that might be too much to ask right now — they will see it someday. I have to say – when I see my two guys laughing and just enjoying one another’s company — I’m in heaven!
I too have a number of close friends. I have one friend who lives in NM – she’s known me since I was 5! She is amazing and even if I don’t talk with her for a long stretch, when we finally do connect it feels like we haven’t missed a beat. I can be my authentic self with her like no one else. I love that about her.
One of my best friends was my mother. I thought I would never replace that relationship – but I have – with my father. It is amazingly different and incredible all the same. Sometimes out of a tragedy comes a miracle.
We rely on our friends for comfort and support. Sometimes our best friends are our spouses. Sometimes not. Sometimes we have more than one best friend. Regardless of the relationship, it requires nourishment and attention. Honestly, the best thing about a BFF, is their ability to listen – not solve – but listen. And for me, those relationships that I cherish are those like I saw last night – a touching base, a connection, questions (not solving – but giving much-needed advice, however) and listening.
Call a friend today and just thank them for being your BFF. Imagine how you’ll feel getting a phone call like that today.
Have a great day!
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