Yesterday, I got a gift. Not the usual kind of gift (although I like those too!) This gift was a friend of mine asking for some help. She simply needed my time and support during in a difficult situation. I was honored to participate.
So much of society gives the message that we can do it all ourselves – the super accomplished person who can take care of kids, work, volunteer, read the Wall Street Journal, have a clean house, food on the table (organic) every night, can solve every personal and math problem for their child (and themselves) and has everyone in bed before 9:30. Some of US have bought into that crazy message and are so focused on doing it all ourselves that it’s almost as if we’ll seem weak or incapable if we ask for help. That’s a “tape” to be cut up and shoved deep into a garbage can! Sometimes it feels awkward or even that we might owe someone something if we ask for or receive help. There are also some of US that have control issues so that when we accept help we give up some control, a fate worse than a week without estrogen (sorry guys – I was neutral there for a while!).
For my close friends and family who are reading this, bear with me as I try to work on asking for help when I am at the end of my rope (Yea, like every day, right?!). This is a hard one for me. For those of my family and friends who have trouble accepting help (you know who you are) take me up on my offers. It will be a gift to you and to me.
So to my friend yesterday, you may think I gave you a gift – but by allowing me to help you, you gave me a really incredible gift.
Let someone help you today! Have a great Saturday.
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